Someone said, "If the horse you are riding dies, dismount." In other words, if what you are doing is not working, you’ve got to change something.
Apparently this is a difficult concept for some folks to figure out. So, they go through life repeating the same mistakes over and over. They whine, complain, belly-ache, but they refuse to make the changes necessary to alter the situation.
The principle is, "If nothing changes, nothing changes."
You know the classic definition of insanity—doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
Stop complaining and ask yourself what needs to be changed. Get help from a counselor if it is necessary. Then, take courage and change the things that need to change.