When I was a junior in high school, my peers talked me into playing basketball for the first time. I was tall, but gangly and awkward.
In one of the first big games, I faced a 6'9", three-sport All American named Randy Mahaffey. He later went on to be an NCAA All American, and spent several years in the NBA.
To say I was outmatched would be a huge understatement. Half-way through the second quarter I became frustrated and balled up my fists for a fight. Randy looked at me and said, "Calm down, Jackson," and proceeded to lope down the court.
The coach took me out of the game. His first words were, "I just saved your life, son."
I learned that day that truly strong people – people who are secure and have nothing to prove can walk away from a fight.