Folks are always asking me what to say to people who are going through a crisis. They ask, "What do you say to someone who has received a bad diagnosis, or some profound loss- of a job or a marriage or a loved one."
I always tell them the same thing: "Don't say anything; just show up. Your presence, not your words, are what your friend needs."
In moments of crisis it is tempting to believe that we must do something helpful or say something brilliant, but nothing could be farther from the truth. There is more healing power in simply being fully present than in anything we could possibly say or do. Simply being present sometimes changes our sisters and brothers who are going through a hard time, and it always changes us.