Social scientists say that the average person says fifty thousand words a day to themselves that no one hears. They call it "self-talk." Sadly, 80% of our self-talk is negative, destructive, and hurtful.
How do you stop the river of negative self-talk that flows in our brains?
I like the story of the woman with a baby who was walking around the grocery store saying things like, "Be calm, Elizabeth. You are a sweet girl, Elizabeth. I love you, Elizabeth."
A woman who overheard her said, "I heard the things you were saying to your child. You are a very good mother."
"No," replied the woman, "I'm Elizabeth."
When you hear yourself criticizing yourself, talk back to the negative internal voice.