Why is it people are unwilling to go to a counselor? We seek help in every other area of our life. We do not think twice about going to a professional with our medical or legal concerns. Why shouldn't we seek help for our relationship needs?
Here are the reasons: We are ashamed because we are unable to solve our problems all by ourselves; we are afraid of what we will discover; sometimes we are in denial about the existence of problems.
A good counselor can provide us with tools which can offer time-saving assistance. A counselor is like a tiller. If you want to plant a garden, you can break up the ground with a hoe, but it will take you a lot longer, and it will not be very effective. Better to rent a tiller.