Your Secert Self

If you feel an aversion to someone, chances are it is because you are repulsed by something you see in them that is also within you.

Also, the criticisms that hurt us the most are the ones which echo our own self-condemnation.

Consequently, if you want to understand yourself better, look carefully at two things:

• the qualities in others that irritate you;
• and the comments others make that cause you to become defensive.

These two things will tell you a lot about your secret self.