Secrets. It's our secrets that make us sick and keep us sick.
Therapists say that the people who come to them for long periods of time often withhold the very information that is most needed to help them. They are ashamed to tell their secrets, even to the person they are paying to help them.
Do you want to get well? I have three practical, but difficult, suggestions:
First, make a list of the secrets you have never discussed in complete honesty with anyone. Dig deep into your subconscious and ferret out your darkest thoughts.
Second, find someone who you really trust and tell him/her your secrets. Don't be afraid. A problem shared is a problem helped.
Third, give the person you trust the right to ask you hard questions about how you are doing with this area of difficulty. Ask them to hold you responsible.